Amazons are picky...and rightfully so.

So I can already imagine the flack that I could/will get for this.  But I'm going to say it anyways.  Because it's how I feel.  And my mother taught me that feelings are neither right or wrong; they're just feelings.

Amazons should not have to date outside their fitness level (unless they want to).  And quite frankly, saying this makes me feel like a bitch.  But in my head I can rationalize this by saying that:

• if I bust my ass to look good, you should too.
• if I watch what I eat, you should too.
• if I strive for having toned muscles, you should too.

 Go ahead: label me something nasty.  Say I'm a bitch, that I'm superficial, and that it's the content of your heart that counts.  Your heart does count.  As does your personality.  Quite a bit actually.  But I would argue that it's a very good indicator of your personality if you are slovenly, or lack self-control, or don't see the error of your ways.  Because you're going to make yourself sick from excessive weight and lack of exercise and I don't need to be your mother. #bitch


I'd like to acknowledge the fact that many people are works in progress.  What you are today isn't an indicator of what you will be tomorrow.  I was, as a child, quite overweight.  I purposely don't look at photos of myself from my childhood because I'm so upset by what I used to look like.  That being said, I don't want to try and fix someone.  They will resent me for not being happy with who they are and I will be miserable because I won't be happy.

I will confess that it's hard finding out someone is out of shape after learning they have a decent personality.  Because how do you casually walk away from that after clearly hitting it off to one extent or another.  Then...WHAMMO!

"I...uh...met someone else." Really?  When did that happen?

"I'm...well...I'm just not feeling like we're clicking..." Oh?  I thought we were.

"Here's the thing, now that I know what you look like, I'm not attracted to you anymore."  WHAT?  You're such a BITCH!
"Yes, I know."

What's an Amazon to do?

• Lie?  No.  Never.  At least not when you can totally avoid lying.
• Be honest? Welp...if you're a cold-blooded bitch I guess you could.  I'm a bitch but I don't want to give someone a complex.  I just want to kind of walk slowly backwards and pretend this didn't happen.
• Say nothing and fade into the background.  Sigh.  I've got balls so that's not something I do with any frequency.  Because it's shit to be on the receiving end of that.  Most of us know that from experience.

I guess in a situation where those are the only options I'd opt for Lie. Keep it vague.  Keep it short.  Dear god, please don't ramble.  I don't normally advocate for dishonesty but you could say something like "Hey, I've enjoyed talking with you but things have changed for me and blah blah blah.

We make no apologies.